Bridal showers have been a time-honored wedding custom with a history dating back to 16th century Holland when a girl’s father was unwilling to pay a dowry for a wedding that he did not approve of.
The entire town came together and gave small gifts to aid her to get her house ready without the dowry. The basic idea has remained somewhat intact through the years and even today, we present couples with presents for their homes.
The manner of hosting these events has certainly changed as time has passed and can be a bit confusing from the person who hosts the bridal shower, to the best way to write the invitation. So we spoke with an expert in etiquette Diane Gottsman to get all the details on what to do at a bridal shower, and how to arrange one.
Although it may be somewhat overwhelming, particularly when you’re responsible for organizing the party, keep in mind that it’s just an enjoyable way to have the bride’s wedding celebration with her closest family and friends. “A bridal shower planned to give the bride a shower of happy wishes, congratulations, and a few gifts.”
Long-standing bridal showers are a popular pre-wedding activity. They can be fun as well as difficult to plan. From locating a venue and selecting the shower decor to select the gift that the couple will cherish this guide will help you plan your bridal shower. Here’s what you need to know about planning the perfect bridal shower.
Bridal Shower Etiquette
Technically speaking, there’s no right or wrong way to host an event for a bridesmaids shower. However, this doesn’t mean that there are no generally accepted rules of conduct. We’ve compiled the top questions regarding etiquette so that you can avoid getting caught in an error at your bridal shower.
What happens at the Bridal Shower?
“Depending on the tastes of the bride’s guests, the host could have fun games that guests can enjoy or leave out entirely,” says Gottsman. The overall theme is typically similar that includes food, drinks, and an occasion for the bride to unwrap gifts in the presence of guests.
It is possible to stick with traditional traditions of bridal showers like gift bingo, or even design wedding gowns using toilet paper rolls or organize a shower with an activity theme, such as spa days or a calligraphy class. Are you not a fan of opening gifts with everyone?
Let us know! These gifts can be set aside to allow you to enjoy them at home, along with your potential partner.
What Should the Groom Do?
If you’re talking about your spouse typically, they arrive towards the close of your shower (with flowers) to greet guests prior to leaving. It’s a great method to involve them in the celebration and ensure that they can help you get those presents home.
What’s the difference between a Bridal Shower and. an event for Weddings?
Wedding showers are now gaining recognition as a more inclusive form of bridal showers. While a bridal shower is typically an event that is reserved for the bride’s group of female relatives and friends A wedding shower is an all-inclusive celebration.
When is the Best Time to Throw a Bridal Shower?
Typically the bridal shower is typically held around six to eight months prior to the wedding. Pick a time that is suitable for the bride and guests whether that’s organizing something further in advance or scheduling the event to coincide with an excursion home or another gathering, like the bachelorette celebration after the afternoon shower.
Who is the Bridal Shower Host?
Showers for brides are typically held by the maid of honor’s intimate friends, bridesmaids’ attendants, or bridesmaids. Whoever is hosting the shower make sure you be clear in your communication to ensure you’re not planning the shower in two different locations.
Tradition dictates that the mother-in-law or mother-in-law (or anyone else in general) should stay clear of hosting as it may appear as if they are soliciting gifts. But, nowadays it’s increasingly commonplace and acceptable for anyone who is up to the challenge of hosting.